Just Say No…to No
by Nick Hayes and Aaron Weintraub
“Here we go again.” “I’m doing it wrong.” “Don’t mess up.” “I can’t do this!” It is fairly obvious that these common phrases are too negative. What is less obvious is the physical impact of negative thinking. Since awareness is the foundation for all adjustments, it’s quite useful to explore the consequences that come from choosing negative rather than positive self-talk.
Waldman and Newberg (2012) researched the impact that negative words and thinking have on the brain and body. In their work, they found evidence that suggested that even viewing a flash of the word “NO” releases stress-producing hormones and neurotransmitters. Simply seeing negative words can have negative effects on sleep, appetite, and the ability to experience long-term happiness and satisfaction1. Have you ever felt a teammate’s negativity bringing everyone else down? Other researchers found that vocalizing negativity or frowning while saying “no” releases more stress chemicals through the speaker and listener’s brain2. Those listening to negativity actually exhibit increased anxiety and irritability, thereby decreasing cooperation and trust! Further, when negative self-talk is coupled with anger, research indicates that decision making suffers, which can lead to mental mistakes and irrational choices3.
Say Yes to Yes!
Luckily, Waldman and Newburg were also able to share the impact that positive thinking has on individuals. Some of the research they uncovered demonstrates that by having a ratio of five positive thoughts for every one negative thought, people can enhance their happiness, well-being, and life satisfaction4. Continuing the evidence for why one should choose to be positive, using positive words and thoughts activate motivational parts of the brain to build resilience when confronted with adversity5,6. Lastly, by simply repeating words such as “love,” “peace,” and “compassion,” specific genes are activated to lower stress7.
Fortunately, you are in control of your self-talk. While coaches or teammates may lead your mind in the wrong direction, you have the ability to be an island of positivity in a sea of negativity. Remember: you are the most important coach you’ll ever have. In order to make adjustments, awareness is essential. Start building awareness by trying to identify the ways that you talk to yourself during practice. Then ask yourself, “Are these beliefs realistic?” and “Are these thoughts helpful?” If not, tap into your personal power by choosing to speak to yourself positively. You are the most important coach you’ll ever have, so the time to start choosing to be healthier and happier…is now!
For the full article by Waldman and Newberg, follow this link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/mark-waldman-and-andrew-newberg-md
References
Waldman, M., & Newberg, A. (2012, August 1). The Most Dangerous Word in the World.
Retrieved June 17, 2015.
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